How do you feel when you are told that someone is a school dropout, or divorced? Or that the person had a child at a very young age (say 14,16 years) or worst of it he/she had a leaked seks video?
It's always common to judge such people and even if you feel sorry for them, the moment you see them again, the first thing that comes to mind is that he/she is a dropout and you might even start looking down on them.
The truth is, these are not situations people will normally want to find themselves in but the reality is that it does happen, and most times when it happens the stigmatization from people around can cause serious depression that if not properly managed can lead the victim to make a bad decision.
Because of these,
1. people remain in failed marriages because they don't want to be called "divorced" and face serious trauma all by themselves
have met a situation where the lady got killed because of domestic violence because she refuse to leave her marriage fear of what the society will say and definetly people will always have there own opinion towards something and her end result was death
2. Young girls see abortion as the only option to cover up from being seen as a bad person for becoming pregnant at an early age. This has led to so many deaths in the process
3. Young students become seriously depressed in school because they know that society will look down on them if they drop out and so they endure the abuse and pains inflicted by lecturers and a faulty educational system that isn't even working.
young girls and boys endure all this, knowing after graduating no job, no wonder a song writer sang wetin we dey do for school. Seeing the education system in Nigeria amazes me because if you no longer have money or your parents are not wealthy it is very hard for you to make it through, 4 years course has turn to 6 years course. Schools no longer look how intelligent you are but rather they are looking for the ones with the money
People are very quick to judge and I think we as a society need to embrace the certainty of circumstances. That you got married before becoming pregnant doesn't make you a better person, that you are lucky to have a good partner doesn't make the other who ran out of his marriage for his life's sake a bad person.
Life is very unpredictable, the least we can do is give our support and a helping hand to people in facing these life realities.