How do you feel when you are told that someone is a school dropout, or divorced? Or that the person had a child at a very young age (say 14,16 years) or worst of it he/she had a leaked seks video?
It's always common to judge such people and even if you feel sorry for them, the moment you see them again, the first thing that comes to mind is that he/she is a dropout and you might even start looking down on them.
The truth is, these are not situations people will normally want to find themselves in but the reality is that it does happen, and most times when it happens the stigmatization from people around can cause serious depression that if not properly managed can lead the victim to make a bad decision.
Because of these,
1. people remain in failed marriages because they don't want to be called "divorced" and face serious trauma all by themselves
2. Young girls see abortion as the only option to cover up from being seen as a bad person for becoming pregnant at an early age. This has led to so many deaths in the process
3. Young students become seriously depressed in school because they know that society will look down on them if they drop out and so they endure the abuse and pains inflicted by lecturers and a faulty educational system that isn't even working.
People are very quick to judge and I think we as a society need to embrace the certainty of circumstances. That you got married before becoming pregnant doesn't make you a better person, that you are lucky to have a good partner doesn't make the other who ran out of his marriage for his life's sake a bad person.
Life is very unpredictable, the least we can do is give our support and a helping hand to people in facing these life realities.
Dropping out of school sometimes is not actually that they people don't have the finance to continue their education it might be that there mentality is on something else and continuing their education might make it difficult for them to meet up their goals on time.
Whichever way it is, it is important that we have a primary knowledge of education as the world is a global village and obtaining a higher education can possibly enhance your exposure to a better future.
Unwanted pregnancy are caused by indulging in immoral sex before and I advise that people should continue to have sex before marriage it should be done with protection as sometimes because of the nature of man and woman it is difficult of staying together without having a canal knowledge of each other.
Divorce cases have been on the increase over the years because of lack of contentment by couples. Like instead of couples to plan together on making a better future for themselves they start seeing flaws in each other and blaming themselves for minor misunderstanding. And one of the causes of divorce is also being in a relationship for too long before marriage. As soon as they get married they are already tired of each other during courtship as they don't see anything new in each other again which may make there love for each other to diminish. In the old days most of our parents doesn't have canal knowledge of who they're gonna be married to their marriages were mainly determined by there parents so after they get married they start building there love towards each other and there love becomes stronger as times goes on making it difficult for them to disintegrate irrespective of challenges they might encounter during their marriages.
And again people should stop getting married because of the benefits that the marriage can offer them rather they should get married because of their love for each other and building there future together as husband and wife.