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Yes, I agree with you, even though you already have your own family and responsibilities, gambling is not wrong if you can limit the game and can prioritize family over gambling, because people's pleasures are different, for example there are people who have no friends or shy people who don't like to talk, people like this tend to have their fun in games, whether it's gambling or other online games. Judging from the differences in each person, they have their own portion.
There is even the opposite of people who gamble but can limit their gambling so as not to damage the harmony of their family, but on the other hand there are people who do not gamble but always ignore their family. So it is only natural that people gamble even though they already have a family as long as they can limit their gambling so that it does not have a negative impact on their family. So I myself agree with what you said, if they do gambling with reasonable limits it's okay. as long as it doesn't damage the happiness of his family.
Of course, family is more important than gambling, gambling is just a game that doesn't have any benefits other than losing money, but there nothing wrong if it's just gambling that can relieve boredom or become an entertainment activity. Talking about it to your partner is important. We have to be open with our wives/husbands if we want to do these activities so that our wives/husbands can understand, and continue to convince our partners not to have bad and excessive prejudices, show that we can control ourselves well and not disturb the family financial condition.
Yes, I also know that family is more important, but we personally certainly want our own pleasure, one of which is gambling if we have been used to gambling from before marriage, but with a note that we must be able to limit ourselves, because there is a more important family, so we don't gamble by desperately sacrificing everything for gambling because there is a family that we must be responsible for. Don't get me wrong, I would also prefer my family because I also think family is the most valuable treasure. Gambling by considering it entertainment and to relieve boredom, I think it's okay as long as we can limit it.
As you said, being open to your partner, that must also be done because it will cause problems when we look different from the attitude, of course, if you hide it, it will bring conflict later. So it's true that you said it's better to be open by telling them what you usually do, it might be difficult for them to accept it because basically gambling is not a good thing, they know there are other things that are better for relieving boredom or for entertainment.