Quote from: shivansps on Today at 03:07:14 PM

Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 11:55:58 AM

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gambleHu gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

This is not a simple situation. But who will feel better if the spouse leaves? Second spouse, children? No, this is not a solution to the issue; it is simply an evasion of responsibility. It will be better for the family if none of the spouses leaves, but both quit playing if they cannot control it and problems have already arisen. If one of them just stops playing, this will not solve the issue, because the second one will sooner or later bring him back. This is an addiction, but God will help you cope with any addiction, including gambling.

Gambling on it's own is risky and at to have both spouses are gambling uncontrollably it becomes a big problem and just as you said, having one of them quitting and leaving the other one person behind is of grave danger but if both decide to take the rough path to quite it works better.

Better still they could consult a doctor if there be any possible medical help that can be rendered to them since it is obvious that, quitting gambling on your own may be hard are almost impossible at some point and if both of them decide to do it on they own, it should be that there must be a change of environment and also changes in a lot of things the couples do to be able to quit and not slide back to their addictions again easily.

As you said in your last paragraph, seeking spiritual help from God is ultimate, but then if that is done with the mindset that a miracle will happen and they just overcome the addictions overnight, it may also become hard, but if the spouse prays and works hard, they will eventually defeat the addictions that are worrying them.