Quote from: Fivestar4everMVP on Today at 07:14:45 AM

Quote from: Smartvirus on Today at 06:57:59 AM

Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 11:55:58 AM

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Well, it’s awkward but in a way, it seems that’s how the both of them do connect, through gambling. At least, they’ve got something in common, something to talk about, something that bonds them together so, why would you want to take that away from them. You might end up breaking their relationship.

Instead of either of them having to stop, I think they are better off, discussing there gambling options, what bets to take and not take, what stakes to make, what limits to set on there gambling habits and they might just find some means to manage their homes even with the gambling. There might not really be a need to quit the way, just some effective management of the situation.

Well, I disagree with you, is either you are not married yet, but if you are, and you think it's OK for married couples to both be gambling, then you are not completely married yet Grin

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There are so many other things through which a husband and his wife can bond together, things are more normal and less awkward, things that are more likely to bring long term fun and not cause financial sorrow of any kind.

A husband and wife can bond together by constantly cooking together, washing together, going out on a date, watching movies together, and so many other things that won't give them the chances of winning money, which also means they could lose money as well, which when a lose happens, it could affect them both.

Family live is full of expenses, most especially when children are already involved, the dumbest thing a husband and a wife would do is to spend money that should have been used for their children school fees, or other important things in the house, on gambling.

@Fivestar4everMVP in a very broad way you have made a lot of sense with what you said, if there's anything in this life that should bring peaceful bond between spouses gambling is not what of them as it involves a high propensity of losing money to making money from it. And money related matters are a one key problem in relationships that have caused many spouse to opt for divorce as a way to settle their scores and path ways.

The coordination that @Smartvirus might be expecting to exist between two gambling spouse is just not possible, they can easily coordinate in running any other business but any attempt to do that with gambling it can affect other areas of family live and the children well being. For instance, when both spouse coordinate to bet a game with the family money and lost that money, the loss can affect their countenance therefore diverting aggression on the children for any little wrong they may have done. Etc.