Quote from: piebeyb on April 15, 2024, 10:03:27 AM

Quote from: bakasabo on April 15, 2024, 08:33:23 AM

But parents cant control that kid 24/7. They cant forbit him to make friends with that kids, and be friends only with that kids, because they are better. From my point of view parents should give some basics of education and correct kids "development" in right direction. But not be 24/7 guards who control every step that kid makes. If they did that, the kid will grow up in a person who can not take his own decision. In this situation I see that parents did not give enough information, proof, evidence, were not convincing enough in describing what is good or bad. Even if someone pushed that kid to get money for gambling, he should have chosen other method.

Yes, it doesn't have to be strict because their privacy will definitely be disturbed. The point is to give an example of what is good and what is bad for children. Sometimes we can't blame the parents or the children who are at fault in their social relationships. Sometimes we as parents have teaching good and correct things, it turns out that out there our children are actually behaving badly, such as gambling with their friends, stealing or other things, but we can't blame either one of them because as parents it is also important to regulate who they hang out with.

Every parent will definitely feel like they have failed if their child steals just because they want to gamble or do something they should do as a child. As a parent, you are obliged to show an attitude that your child can emulate, sometimes as a parent who likes to gamble, you can't control it. When he gambles, he is not even embarrassed to gamble in front of his children, which will certainly set an example for them indirectly. As a parent who is self-aware that gambling is a habit, he should know how to arrange gambling time at night, precisely when the children are asleep. , don't let it be too late to advise and teach our children.

Then we would better stop on a conclusion that both, parent and kid are guilty and failed. It is not only kid that needs to be punished, he is not the only one to think about what he did. Parents should get cautions about their parenting either. Something went wrong in their "being a parent coordinate system". If my kid steal from me, first things I would think about are why he need money for and why he has chosen such path, instead of asking or earning for example.