Quote from: livingfree on May 22, 2024, 09:12:35 PM

Quote from: zuzie on May 22, 2024, 06:44:55 AM

Quote from: livingfree on May 21, 2024, 10:06:50 AM

If a gambler will continue to have that kind of mindset, he's nowhere to go. Many of his friends are going to be away from him if he has taken a loan already from them even they're paid.

Because out of the activity of being a gambler, they'll look to themselves being a partaker of their friend who's addicted and has the habit of taking loan for gambling.

Yes, you are right, if we have a friend who is a gambler, especially if he is said to be a serious addict, we must always be careful because it could be that we often borrow money from us and the money will not be returned quickly.
Sometimes, if we have a very close relationship with a friend, perhaps we will not bear the suffering he is experiencing and with compassion we are ready to help him by lending him money even if it is used for gambling.
However, we must always remember that we must be prepared to give up the money if the return does not match the promise to be paid. So, those are the consequences and risks that we will bear ourselves if we lend money to gambling friends.

It is not going to help if you tolerate him and you still lend him some money even if you understand the situation and it's okay for you that you have the idea that guy might not be able to pay.

It is not compassion if you're going to help him get some money so that he can continue to gamble. A real friend won't tolerate that but instead will educate the addicted gambler to stop it.

Whether he'll get love or hate from that addicted gambler, at least you have expressed and said the right thing to do.

It's true, as true friends we should be able to give good advice and advice to the gambler, but I don't think all true friends are willing to give good advice because the worry is whether the gambler will accept good advice from us if he can't accept it. then it will become a new problem between friendships, right?
And in my opinion, the step we have to take is to give a small loan only once if he can't and give an agreement that if he can't pay it back as promised then next time he won't be given another loan so that in this way the gambler immediately understands and become aware immediately so you can reduce your gambling addiction slowly.