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What you said is very heartwarming, buddy. Yes, I'm scared of it, but I didn't say that I don't want to. That's why it will take a longer time for me to get prepared until I'm ready.
I will put in mind what on your words. Thanks a lot. It just what I have experienced give me a lot to think and a lot to put into consideration before I finally chooses someone to get married.

Everyone can choose and make decisions based on their own knowledge and that also includes choosing a life partner to live together forever. Because when we choose the wrong life partner, of course there will be bad effects that we will feel in life such as the difficulty of making compromises because there are two ideas that cannot be combined so that we cannot focus on working and earning money. So in terms of choosing a life partner, of course there must be mutual understanding and mutual liking so that our lives can run peacefully without any meaningless fuss.

I will put your words in mind, facing our own insecurities and trauma based on experience within the family could be challenging somehow, it makes us became more scared of something and could alter our mind from making the right and objective decision. In this case if finding someone that we mutually understand and accept. I believe in order to gain the courage to face our own mind, I have to have a good preparation and understanding in realizing what happened with us psychologically. Thank you for your encouraging words.

Not really just that limited on marriage aspect but also in other things as well on which it would really be that making you that thinking that it would really be that hard for you to have such action on which we know that when it comes to various decisions then it will really be needing up that careful steps that you would be needing ahead because on the time that you will really be having such awareness about other peoples experiences then you would really be that keen on making up some further actions just because you would really be that get scared or would really be not that liking for you to be able to experience on the same thing. This is why it would really be that important that you should really know at least on whats the difference among into those decisions you would be making and trying out to reflect yourself into their condition.

Speaking about marriage then this isnt something and easy thing that you could just simply get in and tends to get out if you cant bare it anymore. This is really that a lifetime commitment on which
you would really be needing to stood strong on it or would be taking up the responsibility that attaches to it. Here comes that normal thing about having those preparation and those plans on which
its really just that a normal thing that you would be needing up to get in place or organized because you are building your own family so financial aspect or preparedness is really that a default thing.

Thank you for the explanation, that sums up everything in term of facing our own fears. When we experience or witness a painful or traumatic event, our brain will subconsciously develop a coping mechanism to prevent that from happening again. What you just explained is how coping mechanism work.

And when it comes to marriage, what you said about it is what I also want to have. But looking into nowadays dating habit which is kinda messed up, it is rather hard to trust someone who would share the same value as you, and in this case is about loyalty and sincerity