Some people are only inclined to change in words, but when they actually have to do something to change, they never do it
They don't have the reason or the desire to change within themselves first, they are fine being the way they are.
For this reason i am recommend books on self-psychology and self-training that help a lot to understand yourself first and then heal.
I can only speak for myself. This is the path of "correction" that I chose. I read not only books on psychiatry, since I do not trust such a pseudo-science as psychology, but also esoteric works entered my collection. All this together gave a result that I could not even imagine. I switched my attention to daily reading. This helped me understand at least a little about myself and my life. It directed me in the right direction, if I may say so. I am happy that I went down this path, and did not stay aside, so as not to change anything.