How do you feel when you are told that someone is a school dropout, or divorced? Or that the person had a child at a very young age (say 14,16 years) or worst of it he/she had a leaked seks video?
It's always common to judge such people and even if you feel sorry for them, the moment you see them again, the first thing that comes to mind is that he/she is a dropout and you might even start looking down on them.
The truth is, these are not situations people will normally want to find themselves in but the reality is that it does happen, and most times when it happens the stigmatization from people around can cause serious depression that if not properly managed can lead the victim to make a bad decision.
Because of these,
1. people remain in failed marriages because they don't want to be called "divorced" and face serious trauma all by themselves
2. Young girls see abortion as the only option to cover up from being seen as a bad person for becoming pregnant at an early age. This has led to so many deaths in the process
3. Young students become seriously depressed in school because they know that society will look down on them if they drop out and so they endure the abuse and pains inflicted by lecturers and a faulty educational system that isn't even working.
People are very quick to judge and I think we as a society need to embrace the certainty of circumstances. That you got married before becoming pregnant doesn't make you a better person, that you are lucky to have a good partner doesn't make the other who ran out of his marriage for his life's sake a bad person.
Life is very unpredictable, the least we can do is give our support and a helping hand to people in facing these life realities.
When it comes to this situation life isn’t balanced. When I’m told someone is a school dropout it’s reasonable to ask question before jumping into any conclusions because there must be a reason the person dropout, sometimes it might be financial reasons and sometimes it might also be due to academic failure. When it comes to financial reasons i wouldn’t judge anyone, but when it comes to academic failure I should feel bad for the person because there is no reason to accept a course that we would find difficult to study.
Unwanted pregnancy should be avoided at all cost, I don’t see any reason why young people should be having an unprotected sex that would result to pregnancy and you can’t take good care of themselves at a young age. The society we find ourselves is a corrupt society. So this things would happen this Gen Z have a way of doing unimaginable things.
Divorce is also one problem we have in the society this days. But in Nigeria we don’t divorce legally, Divorce for me isn’t a good idea, I obviously think there should be a different way of settling a misunderstanding than divorce when there is divorce the children suffer and the girl child suffers more and leads them to fend for themselves and fall victims of unwanted pregnancy.