Quote from: slapper on Today at 10:18:49 AM

Quote from: Ryu_Ar1 on April 24, 2025, 08:42:56 PM

Actually, in this case, for me, it depends on the condition and readiness of the child himself. Although this method is certainly good, it cannot be denied that not every child has the same understanding, so we also need to be a gentle figure so that the future goals that we hope for the child to do are not misinterpreted by harsh education.
This does not mean that we have to obey all the wishes of the child, but on the other hand, we also do not want to mature the child, but in the end we also have to wait and see whether our child is ready or not with all the rules that we have prepared to make his future better so that what we think is best for the child does not actually make them distant from us as parents because they feel constrained and oppressed.
Not a few parents who force their will as if they can prepare the best for their children in the future which ends with children who are mentally disturbed because they are unable to cope with the demands of their parents. For me, educating children is quite flexible because on the one hand there must be firmness but on the other hand we must also try to create a comfortable space so that children are not burdened and that is the role of parents because we only provide the best facilities as a form of our love and responsibility for our children but we cannot immediately regulate the future as a whole because children also when they have a transition phase to adolescence or adulthood they can determine their life goals and as much as possible from the beginning we apply good parenting patterns so that children can know the goals they want to achieve without the need for our intervention to direct them as a whole.

You’re right: the fishing pole approach works only if the child is ready to hold it. Otherwise, you are giving someone who has not even considered why catching fish is important tools

You discuss emotional, environmental, even existential preparation. Some youngsters will be crushed by the weight of expectation if it arrives before inner scaffolding is developed; others can absorb entrepreneurial thought early on. The economy wants innovation, certainly, but also penalises early scaling of underdeveloped capabilities

How can we encourage independence free from psychological debt? Because the actual debt is about love made dependent on performance. Many adults unintentionally lead youngsters onto paths that seem free but are very structured in order to get them ready for independence. Being a parent is not venture capitalism. It’s early-stage ecosystem building. Neither forced IPOs at eighteen years old nor hypergrowth expectations

That's the point buddy because in the end it all comes back to love without any coercion. We do as parents expect our children to grow up to be someone even better than ourselves as parents but it cannot be denied that in this case we are also not a god who must do all our will to be accepted by our own children because after all our children have their own desires and we as parents only have to facilitate and provide the best without having to make them lose their mentality of confidence just because of our great expectations.

It is not wrong to direct children to positive things including in financial management because we are also obliged to guide it, it's just that making them mature prematurely is also too much because children also have their own lives and we cannot intervene directly just because we want to achieve it quickly. Patterns that sometimes impose can make children constrained so we need to take another approach so that we can channel our desires indirectly but on the other hand children also do not lose their adolescence because we are deprived of great expectations.