Quote from: Joy_learns_crypto on Today at 09:36:03 AM

I will like to pass a serious message from the ugly incidence I had witnessed. I have this friends that were couple and have been couple for a long time this guys always share even thing together especially same orientation about life, I was open to them that I do gamble they don’t like it at all but I made them understand that I am an adult and that’s my life, recently the lady found that the guy do gamble and he owned up that he has been doing it for a while too. They are broken up now on the grounds of mistrust.

I will like people to learn from this because many people gamble in secret for what ever reason and the have companions who knows nothing about this and when exposed can cause the relationship to split or have cracks.

If you gamble it is of your interest and that of your spouse, you both need to share same orientation about gambling or given a chance to understand and respect the other person gambling choice and if they won’t then either they go or you reconsider your choice. Why should an adult keep their gambling choice away from their lover that’s deceit to me. Gambling is not a dirty secret.

When it comes to gambling one should not hide anything from their spouse, because in time of help it will be difficult for the spouse to help, not being able to figure out the direction where the problem is coming from.
The end of the long time marriage wouldn't have ended if there was full trust among themselves, may be he has been lavishing the family funds on gambling unaware to her and she must have been warning and asking him where and what he must have been spending the money on but has been refused opening up untill he was forced to do that by his friend, you cannot tell that a friend of a gambler is not gambler .
Keeping gambling activities away from family members is not always a good idea.

Gambling addiction is like other addiction like smoking, drinking and womanizing, and so there are some women that cannot cope with any of these habit and so informing your spouse at the beginning of the relationship is very important, it is now left if she can cope with your habit or not and maybe it is the addiction she is scared of.

Truth and trust is most important in any relationship we find ourselves, we should learn how to open up to ourselves.