I will like to pass a serious message from the ugly incidence I had witnessed. I have this friends that were couple and have been couple for a long time this guys always share even thing together especially same orientation about life, I was open to them that I do gamble they don’t like it at all but I made them understand that I am an adult and that’s my life, recently the lady found that the guy do gamble and he owned up that he has been doing it for a while too. They are broken up now on the grounds of mistrust.
I will like people to learn from this because many people gamble in secret for what ever reason and the have companions who knows nothing about this and when exposed can cause the relationship to split or have cracks.
If you gamble it is of your interest and that of your spouse, you both need to share same orientation about gambling or given a chance to understand and respect the other person gambling choice and if they won’t then either they go or you reconsider your choice. Why should an adult keep their gambling choice away from their lover that’s deceit to me. Gambling is not a dirty secret.
In my opinion, the way a relationship should start is with trust, honesty, respect, understanding, love, a forgiving mindset, and patience. These things can strengthen the foundation for a relationship to last.
A lot can be changed through open communication. According to you, the man used to gamble secretly and at one point his wife found out. I think the man's wife could not accept this fact, she did not know that her husband was a gambler. She does not like gambling at all. Angry, Resentment and a victim of some kind of deception, so she has decided not to continue a relationship a cheater.
Assume that gambling is bad but not as heinous as theft, cheating or robbery. Anyone who can catch gambling will hide it and not tell anyone and gambling secretly is not something to be taken so badly. A little change in our perspective is needed, have self-control over yourself and discuss it openly without hiding it so that loved ones do not misunderstand and walk away.