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While the traditional view of marriage before pregnancy is prevalent, I believe that pregnancy can be a valid reason for marriage.
Ultimately, the decision to get married or have children should be based on individual circumstances and what works best for you.

Having children before marriage also represents a potential instance of irresponsibility. Most childbearing occurs without the consent of one or both partners, and therefore the choice to marry often leads to unsuccessful outcomes. Childbearing should be a conscious decision, not a situation imposed by force, simply because it requires a degree of responsibility that both parties must commit to, rather than a unilateral decision.

It is good to follow the due procedure before getting pregnant.
By right pregnancy should not coming before marriage, 1st courtship the time two partner has a romantic relationship before they get married.
2nd marriage:is the state of being married.
It is good for a young lady to get married before marriage , but why some young men like their dat to get pregnant before marriage is because of what is happening in this 21st century some many young girls has no womb that is why some young men like their girl to have pregnant before marriage

What do you mean by saying that It is good for a young lady to get married before marriage? I can't really get your point but i will try to resume key ideas: It is important for any man and woman to be in a relationship for a sufficient period of time before deciding to get married. I emphasize that this should be before the decision to get married, not the decision to have a child. In Eastern societies, we call this the engagement period, which precedes the step of marriage. The engaged couple spends this period getting to know each other better and experiencing some shared experiences so that they can become accustomed to each other's personalities and determine whether they can continue. Then, after making the decision to get married, they take the time to make the decision to have and raise a child. This is a logical and sound approach, but what happens in many societies is that the decision to get married is inevitable due to having a child during the dating period, without either party wanting to. This often leads to deliberate neglect of the family and children, especially if they continue to have more.

James Dobson P.Hd., formerly of Focus on the Family, says that a couple should spend a full year getting to know each other, before getting married, and without having sexual intercourse in all that time. I agree with him, except in cases where the couple are both 60-y-o or older.

Sexual intercourse IS getting married. Why. Because it is the special action that starts a new person, the baby, which is a marriage of the man with the woman, genetically. Even if we are certain that a baby will not be started, it's the act that is a potential for the start of a new life.

Intercourse without a formal, written and agreed to marriage ahead of time, is a way that can be an easy divorce. The whole marriage thing is to make a safe and secure life for the new person, the baby, that could potentially come about. The second thing - especially for older people getting married - is that it is an example for the younger people.

Formally get married before the sexual intercourse marriage, so that there is security in the nation.

A third benefit is that an intimate couple share all kinds of 'chemicals' between them... chemicals that they each have to get used to. This includes all kinds of parasites that are unique to the two of them. In addition, they both get samples of each others' DNA in their brains. Recognition of this DNA makes for a kind of natural compatibility and security-of-togetherness, subconsciously, for the both of them.

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