Quote from: AmaGold70 on July 24, 2025, 10:11:41 PM

Quote from: Kavelj22 on May 15, 2025, 05:59:15 PM

I don't like having children. It's easy and doesn't require much philosophizing and interpretation. For this reason, most of my relationships with women have failed to develop into a formal relationship. For me, marriage is all about finding a true life partner to share our ups and downs, and that's enough. Just as I don't like to be tied down to someone who is too attached to her family, I also don't like having children who might one day tire me out or whose rights I might have neglected. Don't call me a "pessimist," because I know circumstances change, and what's best for me today isn't guaranteed tomorrow, no matter how many guarantees there are. These are personal beliefs and preferences, and unfortunately, it doesn't seem like there are women who share my perspective, and most, if not all, consider marriage as a means of procreation.

Are there women who share this perspective? Where or how can I find one? (I know this is bitcointalk not tinder hhh). Why should the concept of commitment extend to procreation as if it were a natural outcome when we are the ones who decide that?

Btw, i live in arabic country with conservative culture. Marriage and having children is a must for everybody and people don't even dare to discuss such topics. What do you think guys?

This is your choice and I respect the fact that you are being true to yourself and the ladies you have dated, but I must tell you that you will definitely have a tough time finding someone like the same opinion about kids because 80% or probably 90% of women in the world want kids because no matter how you try to justify your choices, no family is complete without kids. As humans we are bound to procreate and since you don't want it, I suggest you change your environment because living in an Arabic country with a conservative culture is going to make it hard for you to get what you want.

I'm a Nigerian and having children is one of the key to a blissful marriage, I need children around me incase I grow old, I take care of my old parents and my children will also take care of me, I don't wish to grow old without any children to care and pamper me.

So, one of your goals when you decided to have a child in a miserable reality like the one in Nigeria was part of your retirement plan? So you are risking having a child and taking care of them for more than 20 years to ensure that in the last years of your life, when you are helpless, there will be someone to take care of you? This is absolutely one of the most selfish ideas.

What if your child suffers from the poor conditions of the country and lives in poverty? Will they be able to take care of themselves and their family, as well as you and perhaps their mother too?

I believe your thinking is limited, and because of these ideas, you cannot be someone capable of proper upbringing. It is not surprising that you sacrifice the happiness of one of your children just for your personal comfort. Please stop having more children and do not teach your children these ideas.