Quote from: Akbarkoe on September 05, 2025, 09:27:21 PM

This is very likely to happen, because a child not only needs adequate facilities to support their growth and development, but also needs touch, attention, and affection from both parents. When a child is separated from their parents and lives with other people, even if they are close relatives, the child may still remember their parents, but their respect and affection for them will fade over time while living with their adoptive parents, because that attention and affection will be replaced by the attention and affection of their adoptive parents. There are two possibilities that can cause children to continue to remember their parents. The first may be a longing for the touch and affection of their biological parents, while the second may be hatred because they think their parents are cruel for giving their children to others.

Parents are known to make immeasurable sacrifices for their children, and they do just anything to make better the life of their kids beyond what life they had for themselves. Children can not process this as they are still kids with immaturity of thoughts. Only when they come of age and begin to think like adults maybe by then they will have an understanding to appreciate the parents decision in the absence of the touch of affections and the parent-and-child-time that was replaced by the foster care giver (relative).

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Children are a gift from God and the pride of the family. When we have children, God trusts us to take care of them. And if we cannot provide our children with material wealth, then we should shower them with as much affection and love as possible. This will be something that children will remember forever, even after we are gone.

The biological parents can facilitate an approach he can use to service the bond between him and the child by periodically requesting for the child to come spend the holidays periods with him and siblings. In that way the bond do not get fractured as it should where the child and father do not have that time together at all which could have retained the affection of the child with the biological parent all th child life.

Quote from: franky1 on September 05, 2025, 11:31:30 PM

Quote from: uneng on September 05, 2025, 10:58:53 PM

There must be exceptions, though. We can't generalize, especially when we don't know for real what is the reason behind that distance. It can be for negligence, careless or it can be for necessity, like the parent having to work abroad, for an example.

we cant generalise all peoples experience, but based on the story/scenario of this topic. we can atleast use different scenario's to atleast build up an idea of the possible outcomes for that one scenario described

franky1 I love the contribution you made in your first comment, it brought out a lot I was not thinking of earlier.

And yeah, it is okay to offload possible different scenarios to shape an idea with the topic. In this scenario I was thinking it is for necessity. With the financial load of responsibility of the man weighed above his finances necessitated the request from the relative who is affluent to empower the child with the tools for a better future than what the parents can facilitate.

Normally, frequent calling and recurring visiting of the child with gifts can be handy in keeping the bond