I met my wife in 1985
we married in 1986.

For me personally sex is a pillar of marriage

not the only pillar but one of the important ones.

Whether you have kids or no kids.

sex can be fun and entertaining even after 40 years of marriage.


must you have a roll in the hay before no but you have to talk about what you expect up front.

ie both of you should agree to kids or no kids and know where you stand on this before you marry.

Also have some idea of loyalty or open.  and do not bullshit about this.

ie this is a huge marriage killer if one partner is a habitual cheater.

if you both know what you want and honestly tell each other what you expect about sex you do not need to test each other out.