Quote from: philipma1957 on September 09, 2025, 08:58:51 PM

I met my wife in 1985
we married in 1986.

For me personally sex is a pillar of marriage

not the only pillar but one of the important ones.

Whether you have kids or no kids.

sex can be fun and entertaining even after 40 years of marriage.

must you have a roll in the hay before no but you have to talk about what you expect up front.

ie both of you should agree to kids or no kids and know where you stand on this before you marry.

Also have some idea of loyalty or open. and do not bullshit about this.

ie this is a huge marriage killer if one partner is a habitual cheater.

if you both know what you want and honestly tell each other what you expect about sex you do not need to test each other out.

prior to the marriage.

you're very correct. Sex before marriage is one of those things that actually makes a relationship or marriage work better in most cases. Cause you never can tell how it will be after marriage. Cause one may agree to sex after marriage and not get what he or she is expecting from their partners. Though not in all cases.