I used Zelle, which I didnt realize didnt carry protection like PayPal and Venmo, even though its pushed by my bank. And regarding the lawyer question, that would cost A LOT more than the money Ive lost, so from an economical standpoint it doesnt make sense. Ive contacted the police, so well see how that plays out, especially considering he has an extensive history of fraud.
As for the comments about being more careful and Doug research, I get that now, and your comments really arent helpful under the circumstances. Im looking for constructive help, and if you dont have any, then dont bother posting.
Regarding his identity, Ive traced his real identity to multiple sources, and finally gotten him to admit who he is, even after he and his wife both denied all my allegations. Needless to say his story keeps changing the more I press him, and like any scammer he always has a vague excuse about where things are at, and great comments to deflect the conversation.