I think what you're explaining might be the PoS thing I've encountered.
My SLM sometimes show up 100% in balance, sometimes 100% in stake, sometimes just a few % in stake. I thought PoS meant all coins older than x will be in stake, while newly moved coins will be in balance.
At least that is what the devs of other coins that I've been into so far explained it like. None of their PoS was actually working though, so this is new to me.
I'm still connected using that one node from one of you guys and it seems to work fine.
I do have the error "checkpoint is too old wait for blockchain to download" in the statusbar all the time. It still says "last generated block x seconds ago" and I guess that is okay.