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Quote from: TsenTsen on August 20, 2024, 03:16:55 PM

I haven't married yet. but my parents' were affected by this "bad economic" in their marriage. Economy is the main reason of divorce in my country, seeing this fact, I'm a bit scared for my own sake and my future children if one day I got married with someone. For now, I'm kinda grateful for I am not married yet so i could get prepared for my own economy situation first before I decided to get serious in a relationship to prevent any unwanted problem in a marriage which cause by economy.

Even thinking about the responsiblity, marriage expenses and child expenses are giving me goosebumps somehow, I'm afraid if I'm failed to provide them.

If you are not getting married because you fear that you will not be able to provide for your wife and children after marriage, then this thinking is wrong. Marriage is a relationship in which real life is recognized. There is a blessing in marriage, which causes an increase in a person sustenance. It is a rare relationship in which life takes a new direction with love and understanding. Most people experience is that after marriage their livelihood increased and life became blessed and peaceful. So do not look at marriage with fear or worry but as the beginning of a new life.

What you said is very heartwarming, buddy. Yes, I'm scared of it, but I didn't say that I don't want to. That's why it will take a longer time for me to get prepared until I'm ready.
I will put in mind what on your words. Thanks a lot. It just what I have experienced give me a lot to think and a lot to put into consideration before I finally chooses someone to get married.

Why people would really be that rushing up themselves on getting married? This isnt really that something that would really be that easily be making up such decision considering that you would really be looking for someone whom you would be with for the rest of your life. This is why you wont really be needing up to rush yourself because if you would then it might bring up that forever regret you would really be having in life
specially when you do get married on someone whom you dont like or something that talks about getting forced or something related to it. As for preparations on marriage life then it would really be that understandable
that you would really be needing up to have that kind of plans specially on finances. Make yourself that financially prepared since you are building your own family and as a husband or father to be then
tons of responsibilities on which you would really be needing up to provide.

This is why it would really be that important that you should really be that prepared or else then you would really be experiencing that hardship into your marriage life. This is why preparations
would really be that relevant and something that you must need to be done because having no preparation would really be might lead into some financial arguments later on specially
if your wife and children cant take anymore the bad experience that they are really having along side with you as the head of the family.

Exactly, marriage is not a race. Those who are lucky enough to have a stable job and married to their dream partner, congratulations to them. I, myself, hasn't been that lucky, but it is okay, I just want to be more responsible in the future.

A lot of people will get married, but not all of them would last forever. Especially when we know how hard marriage is and how divorce will affect everything in our life, especially our children. That is what I'm scared the most.

So, I prefer to get married when I'm really ready for it, financially, phisically, and mentally. I won't get married just because I want to.