What you said is very heartwarming, buddy. Yes, I'm scared of it, but I didn't say that I don't want to. That's why it will take a longer time for me to get prepared until I'm ready.
I will put in mind what on your words. Thanks a lot. It just what I have experienced give me a lot to think and a lot to put into consideration before I finally chooses someone to get married.
Everyone can choose and make decisions based on their own knowledge and that also includes choosing a life partner to live together forever. Because when we choose the wrong life partner, of course there will be bad effects that we will feel in life such as the difficulty of making compromises because there are two ideas that cannot be combined so that we cannot focus on working and earning money. So in terms of choosing a life partner, of course there must be mutual understanding and mutual liking so that our lives can run peacefully without any meaningless fuss.
I will put your words in mind, facing our own insecurities and trauma based on experience within the family could be challenging somehow, it makes us became more scared of something and could alter our mind from making the right and objective decision. In this case if finding someone that we mutually understand and accept. I believe in order to gain the courage to face our own mind, I have to have a good preparation and understanding in realizing what happened with us psychologically. Thank you for your encouraging words.