not only you who are in that position, I also feel the same thing as you experience. honestly when I first got to know gambling I was consumed with the assumption of winning big and only winning at the beginning. and for a long time betting money lost without control but I realized that. making gambling not a place to find money but just entertainment and winning is just a bonus that I don't expect now. it is indeed difficult to conclude something that has made us destroyed
But it is very curious how much time spent in the game makes the player gradually move from the realization that this is all just a game, entertainment, and not just waiting for a big win. In addition, I think that almost all beginner players began their game in about the same way in the hope of winning. But gradually, time after time, round after round, the game turned into a habit and began to bring pleasure. I think that of course for different people with different characters and psychological profiles this time is still not less than about six months. And for some it can also be more than a year.
In my opinion, it's not only with beginners, but also with those who are experienced, where they have the hope of being able to get a win, it is clearly seen from the many cases that occur with those who experience major losses such as their assets being lost and even other terrible cases that are caused because they have the wrong response to gambling and what they do is force themselves to win.
With the passage of time and the gambling they do, they will definitely reach a point where they realize that gambling should not be done brutally and make them have experience as well as a lesson so as not to repeat the same thing. But this is unlikely to happen, because when someone already has the wrong view of gambling, it will make them addicted.
I admit this, of course, and it obviously takes place as a reality. I mean that there really are such players who do not change their attitude to the game for a very long time, but as they play they become experienced players, but their approach to the game itself remains the same - based on the desire for a big win. And they may never move into the category of players who treat the game exclusively as entertainment. And on this path, really big losses comparable to a life tragedy are quite possible. However, just such tragedies are a serious obstacle to their continuation of the game in the same style. And they obviously act as brakes in the game with the player just beginning to change his attitude to the game or may even stop playing altogether.