I will like to pass a serious message from the ugly incidence I had witnessed. I have this friends that were couple and have been couple for a long time this guys always share even thing together especially same orientation about life, I was open to them that I do gamble they don’t like it at all but I made them understand that I am an adult and that’s my life, recently the lady found that the guy do gamble and he owned up that he has been doing it for a while too. They are broken up now on the grounds of mistrust.
All I can say is that the couple's relationship is too shallow if they broke up for the sole reason that the guy has kept its gambling activity a secret. I think there is much more to it.
I will like people to learn from this because many people gamble in secret for what ever reason and the have companions who knows nothing about this and when exposed can cause the relationship to split or have cracks.
It is the right of the person to do whatever he wanted to do even when the person has a partner as long as it won't affect the other party negatively. If he wanted to keep it a secret, it is his right to do so since I am sure the other party has their own secrets too. So what if the other party finds out that the person is gambling as long as it does not affect their finances negatively, I can't find any problem with that.
If you gamble it is of your interest and that of your spouse, you both need to share same orientation about gambling or given a chance to understand and respect the other person gambling choice and if they won’t then either they go or you reconsider your choice.
As a couple I also agree that there should not be secret between them but a gambling activity that does not affect their finance negatively should not be the reason for break up unless the situation is worse than what is told.
Why should an adult keep their gambling choice away from their lover that’s deceit to me. Gambling is not a dirty secret.
It is possible that it is not worth telling since they were not affected negatively anyway, it is up to the person to tell his partner or not, and it is the person's right to decide on this matter.